Hello again!
It's been a great summer hanging with my boys and lovely wife. We had my mother in law out to spend time with us over Christmas, we hit the beach quite a bit, played a whole lot and kept up with our helpful habits despite the school holiday disruption in our routine.
One of my favourite moments during this time was one morning when my boys came out to the garage to join me in a workout. The beauty in this moment is that the saying really is true, "They are always watching you, and you are their biggest influence".
Seeing our boys wake up early and choosing to come exercise rather than watch cartoons holds a special place in our hearts as parents. I know we make loads of mistakes but it's nice to see a helpful habit rub off on our children!
Anyhow, I wanted to talk a bit about staying focused on what you really want.
I often get motivated to do ambitious and often times spontaneous things (sailing, adventure racing, painting etc..) that I never end up doing. I think this happens to most of us really. Most times, I don't really pay much attention to these fleeting thoughts. BUT! Sometimes, there are a few thoughts that keep coming back. I usually investigate these by jumping down the rabbit hole and trying to understand why, how, when and where. This is how I start to realize which of these thoughts really matter to me and what I really want out of this tiny, fragile existence we call life. The tough part in all of this, for me, is keeping up with the pursuit of what I really want.
I realized not long ago that the notion of what I really want out of life never goes away. It's always there, lurking in the depths of my mind or sitting comfortably in the forefront of my daily thoughts. What I sometimes miss out on is the continuous focus of these things. Now, I do recognize the health benefits involved in putting things on the back burner and leaving them to stew but I also recognize that unless I become obsessed (in a healthy way) about what I want, then there's no good way for me to achieve it.
So, what I tend to do to "obsess" is this:
I visualise myself with this want. Living it, experiencing it, touching, feeling, tasting the whole experience. Then I let it go.
I write about the want. I spell it out in detail to find the correct words that fit. Then I let it go.
I speak about it. I talk to myself out loud and to my wife or children so vividly they too can see the vision I have. Then I let it go.
I surrender the want to a higher belief. Holding on so tight that this want becomes intrusive only directs me towards frustration, anger and despair. Letting it go to the notion of a higher belief looking out for my best direction allows me to surrender to the thought that what must happen on my journey, will happen to shape my life.
By taking these actions, I create a vision of which I can see the unfolding. The murk slowly washes away and the path towards the clear vision reveals itself. This doesn't mean the work stops. No, this means that I usually have my first actionable step in a series of many more to come. I repeat this process until I achieve the want (sometimes this goes on forever).
The funny thing about staying focused on what you really want is that once I achieve clarity then the want is no where near as important or heavy as the small actionable steps. The want becomes dissected into millions of small parts and those small parts become the vision and each small part keeps me focused on what I really want.
Have a great day and thanks for reading
Kindly
Franck
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